Couples Workshops, Special Events, and Individual Appointments for Couples and Singles

Announcing: Up The Hill To Baker River School by Betsy Smith Bergquist

Up the Hill to Baker River School is a memoir about how Betsy came to overcome the limiting beliefs and assumptions of her own childhood and how those experiences compelled her and Bruce to found their own school in 1977 based on their deepest beliefs about how educational values needed to change. It also offer a rich perspective into Betsy and Bruce’s early relationship and how it shaped what was to come in their later lives and careers together.

Up the Hill to Baker River School (DogEar Publishing, $14.95) is available locally at The Clinton Book Shop, 12 East Main St., Clinton New Jersey (908-735-8811) or directly from us.

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GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT© 20 HOUR WEEKEND WORKSHOPS FOR COUPLES

Workshop Locations: Central New Jersey near New York City and Philadelphia, and Central Massachusetts near Boston

Tired of the struggle and the core scene that plays over and over in your relationship? Do you realize there’s more than the get-along-go-along quality you are settling for?

In this exciting foundational Getting the Love You Want© couples weekend, what you will learn includes:

How you selected each other from an unconscious place, trying to meet emotional needs that were not met in childhood.
The stages relationships go through from romantic infatuation to the power struggle where conflict begins to surface and deficient communication skills become part of the problem. This is where most relationships stay more or less stuck without the path we provide to recommitment and connection.
How one partner retreats physically and emotionally in conflict and the other become more visible physically and emotionally through words and action, and how each pattern threatens the other person.

Our approach is exciting yet also well paced. Through demonstrations and lots of coached practice, it grounds you in the use of core fundamentals of the couples dialogue and other processes to manage conflict and lead you forward with a fresh vision.

Although there are lectures involved in this workshop, you will be spending 75% of the weekend working with your partner. This is truly a working workshop.

The workshop is based on the bestseller of the same name by relationship experts Harville Hendrix PhD. and Helen Lakelly Hunt PhD. It is the starting point and basis for our Build Your Relationship™ System. Our workshops are presented frequently throughout the year in Clinton, Morristown, (Central), New Jersey and Westborough (Boston/Worcester), Massachusetts

Enrollment is limited to 10 couples. This workshop fills regularly. Register Now For this workshop!

Upcoming Couples Workshops, 2010 - Morristown, New Jersey

August 7-8, 2010 - Clinton, New Jersey

September 25-26, 2010 - Westborough, Massachusetts

October 16-17, 2010 - Whippany, New Jersey

“Six weeks after the workshop, my husband and I are continuing to feel very connected, and are using our dialogue regularly. We were very inspired, not only by the content and model of IMAGO, but certainly by the facilitation of two such wonderful partners in the work. The workshop has made a lasting impression on how we communicate and view each other in our partnership.”

April 2010 workshop participant

Register now for this workshop.

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*INDIVIDUAL SESSIONS FOR COUPLES - by appointment only

Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursday , daytime or evening, occasional Sundays

These are ninety minute sessions or longer as needed in office or by phone.

Contact Betsy or call her at 1-908-735-7650 for more information.

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UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP (for couples or singles)

Next date: To be announced. 12b Leigh Street, Clinton, NJ

Cost: $50. per person To register, call 908-387-8270 or email betsy@betsyandbruce.com

Negative feelings and thoughts block the flow of love and life that is essential to our mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well being. Releasing this flow is what forgiveness is all about.

Forgiveness is an inner process which does not require you to tell the person who hurt you that she or he is forgiven. It means changing an attitude of disappointment by canceling our expectations of the other and allowing an attitude of unconditional love to flow out to the person who disappointed or hurt you.

Forgiveness requires canceling our expectations, which is not the same as pardoning or approving. It does not wipe out the wrong of another. We cann change another’s actions, but we can give up (cancel) the expectation or requirement that another should have acted in a certain way.

Conditional love is love that is given when and if demands or expectations are met. Conditional love judges andblames, and is based on “if ” statements. If my requirements are met, I will love you. If they are not, I will withdraw my love from you.

Unconditional love is defined as harmony that exists between your mind, your emotions, and your spiritual self. When you experience harmony, you see positive in the world. Your perceptions see what is good. Love is given with no demands attached.

Come join Betsy and learn to use this powerful forgiveness tool for getting all of your life energy heading in the same positive direction.

Whether your feelings and thoughts pertain to an ex-partner, parent, friend, neighbor, boss, colleague, or yourself, this experience is a must for taking back your capacity to live and love fully.

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ADVANCED ONE-DAY WORKSHOP FOR COUPLES AND/OR INDIVIDUAL SPOUSES OF COUPLES WHO ATTENDED THE COUPLES WORKSHOP

Next date: To be announced 9-4 PM (with one hour lunch break)

12b LEIGH ST, CLINTON, NJ 08809 COST I $150 PER COUPLE or $75. PER PERSON

TO REGISTER, CALL 908-387-8270 or e-mail betsy@betsyandbruce.com

We know from our own personal experience of the need many couples have for support and follow through in using new tools and skills. The challenge of moving from old patterns of communication (“automatic pilot”) to new ones can be quite daunting. The old patterns which fueled the power struggle can feel pretty hardwired and indestructible. Old patterns need to be contradicted on a consistent basis.

In the morning session we review the dialogue and other skills and in the afternoon we practice the dialogue. Bruce and Betsy coach. Even if only one of you in the relationship attends, you can benefit.